No, Silence Of The Screams... Poem by Annette Aitken

Needed! ! My inner self; i know i can love. Thanks for sharing this poem with us.

Love cannot exist without trust only a passion without true commitment, this poem resonates with dignity, a broken heart is mended when trust is found, great poem!

A big thank you to you all for always reading and commenting, sorry I'm not great at doing this bit lol Annette

'When is it the right time to let someone new get to know me? My life. My secrets. The inner me. At times you can bury yourself so deeply, you forget who you are. For trust is a very fragile emotion hard to glue back together from the fragments remaining on the floor after it was smashed into smithereens.' trust is a feeling best seen in the eyes and felt in the soul

Wow, thank you all so very much...love the comments; 0

There seems to be plenty of sincere and good advice below, so even though the questioning tone of the work seems to suggest a desire for answers to the questions posed, I will refrain. I must say, Annette, that perhaps it is the tender honesty, the vulnerability of this work that invites us to jump up with a few pointers ready at hand. And that is where I would like to commend you, for it is often difficult to convey such raw emotion and yet produce aesthetically mature writing. I think you have rendered that beautifully. Well, I can't help myself, I must add a few cents to the discussion. I pound into my children the concept of circumspect. To walk around, looking. It is dangerous to make yourself vulnerable until you thoroughly know the kind of person to whom you give access to your house. People often marry with less information than they would require if they were going to let out their flat to that same person. Anyway, lovely writing, my dear, and engaging contemplation. Thanks, S

oops! i didn't mean to give you repetition in my first comment. my finger was too quick, before i could delete the first part down to the set of lines. well, no big deal. better repetition that something missing. bri :)

I don't get the title's meaning, but i love the poem, 'no ifs, ands, or buts'! ! ! When is it the right time to let someone new get to know me? keeping in mind: My life. My secrets. The inner me...................a Great, if not original, question! my answer is one i gave to a high school English teacher many years ago; i was a student. i said (about something) : It depends on the individual. i stand by that. NOW all you have to ask yourself is: 1 - am i looking for a fling/one-night-stand? OR 2 - am i looking for a summer love? OR 3 - am i wanting a steady, long term 'relationship', including 'intimacy'? OR 4 - am i wanting this to be a lifelong relationship/marriage? [think about having children together, or not; think about finances; think about the future! ] AND 5 - do i WANT ======================================== ==================================== ========================================== well, i tend to DISagree with B. Cantrell's comment that: Love cannot exist without trust. of course, i say there are different types/degrees of that four-letter-word: love! hey! trust is a five-letter-word, but i don't trust it either! ! ! - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - I don't get the title's meaning, but i love the poem, 'no ifs, ands, or buts'! ! ! When is it the right time to let someone new get to know me? [keeping in mind]: My life. My secrets. The inner me........... ……………………………........a Great, if not original, question! my answer is one i gave to a high school English teacher many years ago; i was a student. I said (about something) : It depends on the individual. i stand by that. NOW all YOU (or whomever) have/has to ask yourself/himself/or herself each time ‘you’ are ‘attracted to’ someone is/are: 1 - am i looking for a fling/one-night-stand? OR 2 - am i looking for a summer love? OR 3 - am i wanting a steady, long term 'relationship', including 'intimacy'? OR 4 - am i wanting this to be a lifelong relationship/marriage? [think about having children together, your “own” or your partner’s or yours from a previous relationship, ……or not; think about finances; think about the future! ] AND 5 - do i WANT to share ALL of myself, my life, secrets, inner self? ? ? 6 - do I NEED to share all of that stuff to get what I’m looking for? 7 – will I want him/her to reciprocate? 8 – will it hurt [has it hurt in the past? ] if he/she violates my trust? ? 9 – how bad might it hurt! ? I suggests working at first towards casual [but “safe”] dating, IF it is not just a partner for card playing that you want. Check out some dating sites online. They are not all the same. My current marriage has lasted almost 9 years and we met online, though we did not meet face-to-face for several months. My first marriage was to a friend whose husband was also my friend. I used to visit them once in a while. Then they broke up not long after I started to look for a wife. She caught me on HER rebound! It lasted 9 years. My second wife I met through a personals newspaper ad, a large city newspaper; I also later met a girlfriend that way. I guess the Internet has probably taken over the newspaper personal ads slot. That marriage lasted less than five years. My third wife also placed a newspaper ad (an ad she said her 3rd husband/friend wrote for her!) It was another less-than-five year marriage. Talk to friends, relatives, and others you think you can trust (ha ha) about your dilemma. They may have suggestions. Maybe one of THEM is planning to break up with his/her partner, (a “nice person”, but a bad fit for your friend/relative!) Get involved in activities where you may meet prospective ‘matches’. Go to group therapy meetings for people in similar situations. My first wife met her 3rd husband that way! He lead the group. [is “lead” or “led” the past tense of the verb “lead”? ; I’m too lazy to look it up, but I think “led” is, whereas the same-sounding word “lead” just refers to a metal] Their marriage lasted less than a year; both had children and there were problems because of it! ! ! Hey! I did not have to pay alimony anymore! : ( BUT: Maybe I should not say this to someone who has been “burned”, and is trying to deal with the “trust issue”, but I shall say it! ! Can one EVER know if they can ALWAYS trust any partner FOREVER! ! ! ? My answer is …………NO. : ( : ( BUT, again, that is the whole idea with “trust”! I say “BE CAREFUL” but DON’T deny yourself a future of happiness (or, like me, “just contentment”) because of an overriding trust issue. And, who would mow the lawn, take out the garbage, reach high cabinets? ? ====================================================== Some FAVORITE parts of the poem for ME: “……smashed into smithereens.” ……………nice image and nice alliteration And “I know I can love, But, ” And “Is trust now my nemesis? Will I ever allow it to grow? As the screams of doubt resonate in my head SCREAMING. NO! NO! NO! ” ============================== This is another one for MyPoemList. And it would fit well in a showcase. Let me know if you would like loan it to me. Thanks, Bri :)