Whenever parents become overly invested in a particular skill or accomplishment, a child's fear of failure multiplies. This is why some children refuse to get into the pool for a swimming lesson, or turn their back on Daddy's favorite sport.
The first opinion that occurs to us when we are suddenly asked about something is usually not our own but only the current one pertaining to our class, position, or parentage; our own opinions seldom swim on the surface.
(Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900), German philosopher, classical scholar, critic of culture. Friedrich Nietzsche, Sämtliche Werke: Kritische Studienausgabe, vol. 2, p. 334, eds. Giorgio Colli and Mazzino Montinari, Berlin, de Gruyter (1980). Human, All-Too-Human, "Man Alone With Himself," aphorism 571, "Our Own Opinions," (1878).)
... strike the words "white male" from all your constitutions, and then, with fair sailing, let us sink or swim, live or die, survive or perish together.
(Elizabeth Cady Stanton (1815-1902), U.S. suffragist, social reformer, and author. As quoted in Feminism: The Essential Historical Writings, part 3, by Miriam Schnier (1972).
The conclusion of her 1860 address to the New York State legislature.)