When feminism does not explicitly oppose racism, and when antiracism does not incorporate opposition to patriarchy, race and gender politics often end up being antagonistic to each other and both interests lose.
It has been observed that while anti-black racism charges its object with inferiority, anti-Semitism charges its object with iniquity. The racist believes that blacks are incapable of running anything by themselves. The anti-Semite believes (in one popular bit of folklore) that thirteen rabbis rule the world.
(Henry Louis, Jr. Gates (b. 1950), U.S. author, educator. "Backlash?" New Yorker (May 17, 1993).)
Men are going to mistreat you, use you, and play with you, if you don't want it then stop allowing it
Men are going to cheat on you, if you don't want it be a better partner to avoid it
Men are going to hit you, if you don't want it stop provoking it
Men are going to rape, if you don't want it change your face, your dress, or yourself to prevent it
White privilege (and it's equally evil twin racism) is going to marginalize and dehumanize you, if you don't want it become super intelligent, super respectful, and impeccably dressed so you can rise above it
AND, if they still do it, maybe, just maybe society will hold them accountable, because you did enough to prevent them from doing you harm...
But, then again, there must still be something you did to cause this atrocity to happen.