Go up close to your friend, but do not go over to him! We should also respect the enemy in our friend.
(Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900), German philosopher, classical scholar, critic of culture. Friedrich Nietzsche, Sämtliche Werke: Kritische Studienausgabe, vol. 10, p. 193, selection 5, number 49, eds. Giorgio Colli and Mazzino Montinari, Berlin, de Gruyter (1980). Unpublished fragments dating to November 1882February 1883.
Originally meant to be attributed to Zarathustra in Thus Spoke Zarathustra.)
We cannot always assure the future of our friends; we have a better chance of assuring our future if we remember who our friends are.
(Henry Kissinger (b. 1923), German-born U.S. Republican politician, secretary of state. "A Visit to the Shah of Iran," ch. 29, The White House Years (1979).
Said of the changing U.S. policy toward the Shah of Iran.)
A friend whose hopes we cannot satisfy is a friend we would rather have as an enemy.
(Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900), German philosopher, classical scholar, critic of culture. Friedrich Nietzsche, Sämtliche Werke: Kritische Studienausgabe, vol. 3, p. 226, eds. Giorgio Colli and Mazzino Montinari, Berlin, de Gruyter (1980). Dawn, "Fourth Book," aphorism 313, "A Friend We no Longer Want," (1881).)
But it is hard to know them from friends, they are so obsequious and full of protestations; for a wolf resembles a dog, so doth a flatterer a friend.
(Sir Walter Raleigh (1552-1618), British author, soldier, explorer. repr. In The Works of Sir Walter Raleigh, vol. 2 (1751), also in Advice to a Son (1962). "Wisest Men Have Been Abused by Flatterers," ch. 3, Instructions to His Son and to Posterity (1632).)
It is hard for many people to know who they are when they are sold a false bill of materialistic and unrealistic dreams; joy and contentment are often found in small things and work well done; thinking and wearing your heart on your sleeve means facing loss mistakes disappointment and unresolved issues; it should also mean the desire to resolve past issues move on and love life; first we have to make a form of peace with ourselves, before we can effectively have healthy peaceful relationships, with family friends and strangers, because all strangers are potential friends. The reality is life contains measures of opportunities joys difficulties problems and conflict, life is hard, good friends help us carry the load.
(Terence George Craddock March 2016 on the 11.3.2016)