Quotations From PAMELA PATRICK NOVOTNY

 

  • 1.
    Just because multiples can turn to each other for companionship, and at times for comfort, don't be fooled into thinking you're not still vital to them. Don't let or make multiples be parents as well as siblings to each other. . . . Parent interaction with infants and young children has everything to do with how those children develop on every level, including how they develop their identities.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. journalist and author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 9 (1988, rev. 1994).

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  • 2.
    The loosening, for some people, of rigid role definitions for men and women has shown that dads can be great at calming babies—if they take the time and make the effort to learn how. It's that time and effort that not only teaches the dad how to calm the babies, but also turns him into a parent, just as the time and effort the mother puts into the babies turns her into a parent.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. journalist and author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 6 (1988 rev. 1994).

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  • 3.
    One internationally known twin researcher sees similarities between twins' relationships and those of couple who have been married a long time. Fifteen-year-old twins, as well as spouses approaching their fortieth anniversary, each know their partners' likes, dislikes, habits, and idiosyncracies as well as they know their own.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. journalist and author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 9 (1988, rev. 1994).

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  • 4.
    Many people have an oversimplified picture of bonding that could be called the "epoxy" theory of relationships...if you don't get properly "glued" to your babies at exactly the right time, which only occurs very soon after birth, then you will have missed your chance.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 2 (1988 rev. 1994).

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  • 5.
    The bottom line on bonding with multiples seems to be that if you see bonding as a static event—a moment in time at which you must have eye contact and skin contact simultaneously with two or more infants—you may indeed be in trouble.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 2 (1988 rev. 1994).

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  • 6.
    The first time many women hold their tiny babies, they are apt to feel as clumsy and incompetent as any man. The difference is that our culture tells them they're not supposed to feel that way. Our culture assumes that they will quickly learn how to be a mother, and that assumption rubs off on most women—so they learn.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. journalist and author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 6 (1988 rev. 1994).

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  • 7.
    There is absolutely no evidence—developmental or otherwise—to support separating twins in school as a general policy. . . . The best policy seems to be no policy at all, which means that each year, you and your children need to decide what will work best for you.
    Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. journalist and author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 8 (1988, rev. 1994).

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