When we suffer anguish we return to early childhood because that is the period in which we first learnt to suffer the experience of total loss. It was more than that. It was the period in which we suffered more total losses than in all the rest of our life put together.
(John Berger (b. 1926), British author, critic. (repr. 1976). A Fortunate Man, p. 122 (1967).)
It is with our brothers and sisters that we learn to love, share, negotiate, start and end fights, hurt others, and save face. The basis of healthy (or unhealthy) connections in adulthood is cast during childhood.
(Jane Mersky Leder (20th century), U.S. magazine writer, author. Brothers and Sisters, ch. 3 (1991).)
Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation.
(Alice Miller (20th century), German psychoanalyst and author. For Your Own Good, "Unlived Anger," (trans. 1983).)
In all our efforts to provide "advantages" we have actually produced the busiest, most competitive, highly pressured and over-organized generation of youngsters in our historyand possibly the unhappiest. We seem hell-bent on eliminating much of childhood.
(Eda Le Shan (b. 1922), U.S. educator, author. The Conspiracy Against Childhood, ch. 1 (1967).)