When we acknowledge our children's right to want things, as well as their right to be upset when they can't have what they want, it can go a long way toward defusing their anger and the tantrums that occur as a result.
(Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma, ch. 2 (1991).)
The myths about what we're supposed to feel as new mothers run strong and deep. . . . While joy and elation are surely present after a new baby has entered our lives, it is also within the realm of possibility that other feelings might crop up: neediness, fear, ambivalence, anger.
(Sally Placksin (20th century), U.S. writer and producer. Mothering the New Mother, ch. 1 (1994).)
I am absolutely sure that a lot of Daddy anger has more to do with unrealized dreams than with messy rooms. Trust me. You're not really angry at your kids. You're angry at somebody else, somebody who is a far less distinguished person than he dreamed of being.