Tirukkural Chapter 91 - Couplets 4,5,6 Poem by Rajaram Ramachandran

திருக்குறள் -TIRUKKURAL
அதிகாரம் 91 - பெண்வழிச் சேறல்
CHAPTER 91 - FOLLOWING WOMAN'S ADVICE
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91/04. மனையாளை அஞ்சும் மறுமையி லாளன்
வினையாண்மை வீறெய்தல் இன்று.

91/04. Manaiyaallai anjum marrumaiyi laallan
Vinaiyaannmai veeraidhal indrru.

91/04. One who obeys wife's orders will not reach heaven
As well as he'll not reach success in any work he undertakes.
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Ajeet: How far a husband must obey
His wife's orders?

Jayant: The work of a male depends
Upon his physical strength,
And that of a female depends
Upon her husband's supports.

A husband can't deliver babies
A wife can't fight enemies.
Each has some plus points,
And with that some minus points.

If they understand each other,
Wife will respect her husband
And husband will assist her,
Thus the family goes well indeed.
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91/05. இல்லாளை அஞ்சுவான் அஞ்சுமற்று எஞ்ஞான்றும்
நல்லார்க்கு நல்ல செயல்.

91/05. Illaallai anjuvaan anjumatrru enggaandrrm
Nallaarkku nalla seyal.

91/05. If a husband does all his duties under fear for his wife,
he'll be afraid of doing good things to deserving people.
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Ajeet: If a wife dictates her husband's duties,
Then his freedom is lost forever.

Jayant: If he wants to help someone
He must ask her permission.
If she says "Yes, " he can help
And if she says "No, " he can't help.

This kind of one sided control,
Will be a problem, not ideal,
And her husband one day,
Will even run far away.

An ideal situation will be
Each one will be free
To do what they want
Within certain healthy limits.
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91/06. இமையாரின் வாழினும் பாடிலரே இல்லாள்
அமையார்தோள் அஞ்சு பவர்.

91/06. Imaiyaarin vaazhinum paadilare illaall
Amaiyaartholl anju bhavar.

91/06. If husbands are charmed by their wives' bamboo like shoulders,
and do whatever wives say, even though they may have heavenly enjoyment, they are not great in their lives.
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Ajeet: One's wife may be beautiful to look at,
But that doesn't mean he must fall a slave to her charm.

Jayant: Sometime her beauty invites,
By her side more enemies,
So, her husband must take care
But not become a slave of her.

He can be happy with her,
But must not be a slave of her,
Forgetting his own duties,
And remaining criticized by others.

Both must show to the world,
They're ideal wife and husband,
And each one suggesting things,
To the other within certain limits.
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