The Whole Body Orgasm-Part Four Poem by Lonnie Hicks

5-20-11 How a Partner Can Help

Now the partner in all this must be aware of the role of the body in these exercises and be willing to actively help.

The first principle is that while breathing the helper must be willing to do massage of various parts of the body.

What could be better! The breather gets a massage out of it if nothing else.

We start at the top of the head and will work down the body ending at toes. (Wonderful!) It's all for science.

We can't go into great detail here and now but lets get

get started with a few preliminary points.

The body is the seat of congealed stress. Stress in our lives in fact become lodged in the muscles of our bodies, but also in our eyes, in our throat, in our neck muscles, in our diaphrams in our hands, in our arms, fingers etc.

First question before, during and after a breathing session is 'Where does it feel tight or tingling? '

Absent this targeted approach a general approach and short asssesment massage might start with a scalp massage, or a brain massage.

Lightly. Note parts of the body have 'feelings' and can often react to a lack of symmetry in applying a massage. If you massage one arm and not the other there is a reaction. But more on that later.

A head massage, then the jaws muscles. There is a lot of tension there, Then the eyes, (they are closed, of course, but gently please folks. In fact around the eye sockets is better for the ham-fingered. Just lightly. Then the below the eyes cheek-bone areas, gentle strokes putting just enough pressure to reach the bone structure beneath. (Does it get much better than this? '

Then to the sides of the head, the ears, and then down to the neck. Probe getting feedback from the partner as to what feels good, what is tingly, what is numb with no feeling and the like. You are learning your partners body and allowing that body to fall in love with you.

Heads don't fall in love, bodies do.

Next the upper arms, the neck and its nape. Gentle probing, deep tissue probes come latter, and all the while each partner breathes. If either of you stop breathing or try to talk during these exercises you are avoiding feeling the exercises. No talking, just feeling and breathing.

Humm, more next time.